Arranged Marriage Strikes Again!!!

Every where i look these days, everything i hear these days and everything i smell these days is about weddings. The number of people who i know, who are getting married in the next 2 years is more than i knew of in the last 27 years:) Crazy

Now since i am back home - in the land of arranged marriages, it's my turn - well so says my mom at least.

I came on Sunday and after the initial phase my mom managed to find an appropriate time and popped in the million dollar question - " When will you marry?" Finished your studies, landed a job, and settled down. Like most other guys, marrying should be the next thing on your agenda.

The problem is not that my mom tells me so because i can make her understand. the problem
is the "concerned" relatives and neighbors for whom its more of an issue - and i also don't know why that is.

One of my best friends today put this in the best way possible and i agree. a vast majority of men(id say 80%) in India do not get to have sex before marriage - so sometimes they are so desperate for it that they just agree to marry - A legal license to have sex in India. this actually might be true as funny as it may sound.

But thats not the only reason - the pressure is tremendous from all fronts and its even more difficult for girls. a lot of my friends who are girls would want to keep studying to delay the inevitable.

Read more abut arranged marriages here

When i was young..lets say 10 years back, i used to think that this custom will die out with time. but there are no signs of that, in fact with the advances in social networking it has become a huge business.More "matches" are happening online than off line these days.

So i guess its my turn now:)

The Art of Moving On

Sometimes life has the habit of kicking us in the teeth, perhaps through no fault of our own.We have two options to dealing with what life throws at us and these are to give up and go into depression or to accept whatever happens in life and then move on with our lives, if we make the right choice then we grieve of course, then pick ourselves up and move on with our life.

"This is it. its time to move on". How many times have i heard this before - yet, every time i am thrown in this situation, its like its happening for the first time

Whenever i move on from a place - its always a bit hard, like now. Moving on from my house, from the locality, from the tube station, from job, from the shopkeeper that is always shouting, from the bus that is always crowded, from the lunch that is always quick, from the Tuesday evening drinks which never start on time, from the pub full of drunk people,and most importantly moving on from friends who i have spent so much time with and whom i might not see again.

I try many things when such things happen, whether they are setbacks in life or moving on from places and from friends. i try to stay calm and composed, i try to stay objective and rational, i try to separate my emotions from reality, i try to show i am very strong and can handle the situation without any problems and i even try reverse psychology (e.g. oh! i didn't want/like it anyways:))

I still havent devised a sure shot formula to come out of the situation, but one thing i know for sure that there are some things i will never move on from. Those are the things which i will keep with me on my life journey and invariably they will be people,not things or places.Moving on is moving forward for many ,but i do think that i dont need to leave some important things behind to move forward.

So here's to all friends and one other person - i will not move on from you:)